My adventures in dating and how I found a unicorn

Due to popular demand, I am writing this blog post late on a Sunday night in regards to my adventures in dating. This is an ongoing narrative, but thought I’d give an update in the dating life of Jen.

Some background: I have been in full-time school since June 8th, and I have a 1 year old who keeps me busy when she’s not with her sitter (about 2-3 days a week) or her dad (every other weekend). To put it simply, I don’t really have time to date. I am looking for something very specific, I actually made a list. Ideally, I want to meet and be pursued by the man God has for me. I have a very specific plan that includes marriage in the future. I will list below what I want out of the man in my life, which has guided me in my decisions towards who I date and who I say bye to.

*He’s ambitious
*He’s open-minded
*He’s intelligent
*He’s passionate
*He’s family oriented
*He’s kind and sweet to me
*He accepts me for who I am
*I must be able to learn from him
*He wants to be my closest friend
*He enjoys learning
*He loves trying new things
*He knows who he is
*He’s on his journey of finding his purpose
*His heart is pure
*His soul is raw and real

Through my experience, I tend to have very specific preferences. Ever since February of this year, I’ve been very interested and honed in on black men in the medical field. I dated a pharmacist from March to June, and I went back to the dating apps about two weeks ago. That’s when the adventure started. I was striking out on the app until last week Saturday I was inspired, drank some wine, and started swiping away. I started talking to some interesting people, video chatted with one in particular and we agreed to meet the next morning for coffee. We met, and he was super cute and really tall (6’4″) but after thinking further, I determined he wasn’t exactly what I was looking for. I also, indubitably, got distracted by someone more engaging. This guy just kept texting me these awful and hilarious jokes. At first I thought he was yet another guy trying to get in my pants, but he turned out to be so much more.

After texting all day Sunday and Monday, we decide to last minute meet on Monday night. We go out for food and the connection is undeniable. I literally can’t stop laughing all night long, the next day my face hurts as I teach my lesson in my internship. He is one of the two guys I’ve ever met and felt this instant connection with. So much, I start thinking there’s something not right about the situation. My fears are confirmed on Wednesday afternoon when he texts me that he’s moving to Boston in August for the job of a lifetime: to be a doctor at Harvard University Teaching Hospital. He basically asks me if I want to move forward and try a long distance relationship (insert gasp here). Day 4. LDR. Understandably, I start thinking about the pros and cons. I actually take the next 24 hours to process things, ask others their opinions, and make a pros and cons list. The pros outweigh the cons, and I agree to continue to see him until he moves on August 3rd.

We spend Thursday night, and Saturday night together. I meet his friends Saturday night and have a great night with him and them in the city (both downtown and in Lakeview). We both are currently in the same mindset that we will take things one day at a time. I won’t lie, I already looked at flights to Boston and texted my bestie Joyce who lives in Boston to tell her I want to come (pending covid status).

Someone tell me to wake up. This guy is too great but is it only because he’s moving away? Has anyone been in a long distance relationship? Did it work out? Or no?

Picture of me attached. I refuse to take a picture of us because there is no us unless we somehow weather the storm of the impending distance between us.

On to the next! To be continued…

Five blog posts I recently discovered

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Through this Ultimate Blog Challenge, I not only have been challenged to blog everyday but also to read and comment on other blogs that I normally wouldn’t read otherwise. Through this experience, I’ve discovered blog posts that have made me return to the blog to read more. And today I feel like sharing these gems.

  1. Sharing my two cents This blog post reminded me instantly of my mom and her mom (maternal grandmother) both of whom I miss dearly. I love the idea of pennies being lucky and of pennies being a sign from above. 🙂
  2. Colleges inflate their competitiveness As an ACT and SAT tutor, I have seen this come true before my eyes. It’s good to keep up with the current college trends as they’ve changed since I was in college back in the early 2000’s.
  3. Do affirmations work? This post was interesting to me since I’ve heard both sides of whether affirmations work or not. I enjoy writing my affirmations down but also don’t want to rely on them to feel like I’m good enough the way I am.
  4. Weekends are for my daughter I like this blog since it seems to paint the picture of my future. While I don’t have a kid yet, I will soon be living the life of raising my daughter and helping her explore the world around her.
  5. Here’s why I don’t care if I’m being clingy This is the blog of blogs. To be honest, I didn’t think guys like this still existed. And a part of me is imagining some old lady on the other side of the world writing this blog. But this gave me a sliver of hope for the opposite sex.

What blogs do you enjoy reading?